Writer. Wife. Mom. Runner. Crocheter. Cancer patient in a pandemic.

We all cope differently

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Taylor Swift dropped two albums during the pandemic and I lost my hair. No, really, I did. Try not to be jealous.

In 2020 as the world grappled with the pandemic, Taylor let her creative energy take over and she dropped two albums.

Folklore and Evermore have been the backdrop to my writing. It’s what I have on repeat as I share my words of wisdom with you. I’m listening to Folklore now. Thanks for the muse, Taylor.

It’s really hard not to be jealous of a 31 year old superstar who has the energy to write and produce enough songs for two albums, while I was trying to not grimace at my reflection in the mirror. …


If I Squint Really Hard I Can See the Finish Line

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I actually kind of hate the phrase: It’s a marathon, not a sprint. SHUT UP! I KNOW! But I didn’t sign up for this. It would be one thing if I had been prepared, but I wasn’t. It came out of left field, and I have no choice but to keep going.

Everything in life can be considered a marathon: motherhood, career, life. You name it, it’s probably a marathon.

If you’ve ever trained for a race, you can appreciate the drudgery of getting your body for the mileage and strain. …


Gaining Perspective

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The summer of 2020 was fraught with tension, anger, and frustration. That doesn’t even begin to cover it and in fact, puts it too mildly.

America had been stuck in a quasi lockdown with the pandemic for over two months and as the temps outside rose, tempers flared.

People were arguing about whether or not to wear masks or if COVID was a hoax. Spoiler: Covid is not a hoax.

As we kept to ourselves and missed our friends and family, we had nothing to do but scroll social media and watch the news.

And then we heard a grown man cry out for his mama in pain and in fear. He wasn’t the first, nor, unfortunately, will he be the last. …


Mom, put down the spatula

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My husband may be working from home, but he is working really long hours and will continue to do so for the next 8 months.

I can’t expect him for dinner, much less be available to take take turns making it. Last night, his business call ended after 9:30pm. He grabbed dinner on one of his breaks and brought the plate with him to his home office.

For the time being, meal time is just me and the kids. And honestly, I hate the question, “What’s for dinner?” …


And other life lessons from Schitt’s Creek to get you through the pandemic

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Johnny, Moira, David, and Alexis Rose will get us through the inauspicious start to 2021 and the rest of the pandemic.

When we realized that the pandemic wasn’t going away, Schitt’s Creek ended their six season run, just when we needed the Rose family more than ever. Thanks 2020! NOT!

I was late to the party and didn’t find this gem of a show until December, 8 months after the series finale. But it’s lucky for me, because it’s the mood I need after the terror and chaos that surrounded my city on Wednesday.

If you’re not sure what happened in Washington, D.C. this week, scroll through your news feed and you’ll find plenty of stories about the assault on the Capitol building.


This isn’t democracy, it’s a deadly temper tantrum

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“You Don’t Always Get What you Want” — The Rolling Stones

All of my children have had the same kindergarten teacher. They walked out of his class knowing their ABC’s and 123’s, that practice makes better, and you don’t always get what you want.

My last child is in kindergarten and her older siblings have prepped her from the time she was waddling around in diapers that she doesn’t always get what she wants.

Not getting what you want is a basic rule of thumb in parenting and in teaching. …


It’s a disservice to teachers and students to do otherwise

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The Results are In

The results are in, and there’s a divide among parents about reopening schools.

Montgomery County Public Schools (MCPS) sent out a two question survey to parents before December. They received 127,112 survey responses on behalf of their students regarding the decision to reopen schools.

Parents were told that if they wanted to stay fully remote, they didn’t have to fill out the survey. By not responding, they were choosing yes to virtual learning.

However, even with the choice to say nothing to remain in distance learning, 50.2% of the respondents still made a point to let MCPS know they’ve chosen to continue with virtual only classes. Only 49.8% …


Warning Signs I wish I had known

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Every medical treatment comes with warning signs for a highly allergic reaction. What I didn’t know is that some of those warning signs appear mild the first time and begin to ramp up every time you come into contact with a life threatening allergy.

I was given the warning signs to look for when taking Taxol. However, when all the signs are very similar to what are “normal” for chemotherapy treatment, such as fatigue and nausea, it makes it much harder to decipher when they are mild at first.

Diagnosis

I was diagnosed with breast cancer in February 2020. I found the lump in mid-January, despite having clear mammogram 18 months prior. …


Because you deserve goodness

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How do you start your year on Fire?

A new year is synonymous with making resolutions, choosing a power word of the year, and making a new you.

But what if I told you that you are already perfect the way you are, but you just need to see it for yourself?

Don’t believe me? Reframe your thinking. Take a deep dive into who you are and you’ll see that you can start the year embracing who you are and who you are meant to be.

Not sure where to start?

Start your year with Jen Hatmaker’s latest book, “Fierce, Free, and Full of Fire.”

Who is Jen Hatmaker

Jen Hatmaker, a well known Christian author, authentically shares about motherhood and life. She admits the challenges of parenting while also savoring all the memories. Known for her large feather earrings, her love for Jesus, and her fight for equality and justice, Hatmaker is no wallflower. …


8 Ways to make 2021 your year

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Let 2021 be the year of saying yes

Ready to have 2020 in your rearview mirror and say, “Buh-bye”? Hindsight is 2020, so let’s learn from 2020 and use those lessons to our advantage to make 2021 the best year yet.

If 2020, a complete dumpster fire of a year, has taught us anything, it is that life is short and unpredictable. Anything can happen and you need to take charge of your destiny now. Don’t wait passively for things to get better. Be proactive and make this year yours. You can do it.

The uncertainty of the pandemic made a lot of us put our lives on hold as we waited to see how 2020 would play out. Now, we’re ready to move forward. We’re ready for new opportunities. We’re ready to make things happen. …

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